The Truth About Worrying

– You can’t cross a bridge till you come to it.

One of the truths that I have observed is that most of what I spend my time worrying about never happens.

That means all of that energy of worry was wasted.

Right next to that observation was the realization that if something I worried about did happen, the worry did not change the situation. The worry I had invested did not make things better. I had to handle the situation when it happened in the midst of the life circumstance in which it happened.

All worrying had done is sap the strength I needed to cope with things and increase my fear response. It did not improve my ability to handle the situation. It did not decrease my sorrow or frustration one little bit.

What I did realize when I looked back on the events that I had been worried about was the actual facts were very different from my worries.

However, what the time I spent worrying did was diminish my appreciation of what was actually happening in my life.

When I objectively consider the time and the energy I had consumed with worrying, I was able to see that it was a waste.

When I further considered the nature of the worry, it was mostly based on the fear that I would lose something or someone I had in my life in the present, so diminishing my appreciation of what was real in my life at that moment was a significant loss.

The joy of the moment that I sacrificed to worry cannot be recaptured. It led me to understand that worrying is a joy spoiler and a life spoiler.

Worrying brings you out of what is actually happening in your life, in your real life, into a future that may never happen.

Right now in the present moment, the future is unformed and uncreated. As such, what will happen in it is unclear. No matter how hard you try, you cannot know what will happen. You cannot change that.

What is interesting is that no matter how much time or effort you give to worrying in the present, it does not change anything.

When you expand your awareness to consider the principles that energy follows thought and other factors about life, such as the Law of Attraction, you realize that worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.

In the words of folk wisdom.

In the journey of life, you can’t cross a bridge until you come to it.

Having been mostly raised by sage women who were my grandmothers, I recall their different ways of making the same point. One would say,

Never trouble trouble, till trouble troubles you.
– Mary Fisbeck

The other expressed the same wisdom by advising,

Sufficient unto the day are the problems thereof.
– Florence Hook

Truly, you can only live your life in the present moment. The past is over almost as quickly as it happens. This is an important fact. Nothing you can do can ever bring the past back.

Each moment brings its own gift and its own experience.
– Genevieve Gerard

That there is only right now to live in, gives you great freedom.

You are free from any past failures, past problems and mistakes.

Likewise, whatever challenges may be facing you at the moment can be tolerated when you realize it is limited to now. It is not how things will always be. That provides strength and courage to coping in the present.

This fact of living helped me to understand how we can be assured we will never be given more than we can handle.

Staying in present time is very important. The minute your mind offers the lie that “it has always been like this,” or “it will always be like this,” your strength falters.

The minute that you shift your awareness to the realization that the past is past and you are not limited by it or controlled by it in any way, your perspective changes.

Being in the present is of immense importance. Staying aware of now is of great value.

More and more I find I want to be living in a Big Here and a Long Now.
– Brian Eno

It is significant that this all takes place in your mind. Thankfully, your mind can be under your control.

Indeed, a primary advantage of learning to meditate and practicing meditation is learning to harness the power of your thoughts and your mind.

Indeed the technique of cognitive reframing gives you great power that demonstrates how you can change your life, by changing your mind. Reframing is a way of viewing and experiencing events, ideas, concepts and emotions to find interpretations that are more positive.

To stop worrying, to release your fears and harness the power of your mind allows you to be a force for living a happier, more successful and more empowered life.

An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.
– Proverbs 12:25

Using the tools and techniques of meditation are a significant step in seeing the truth about worrying. The more you can bring the power of your mind under your conscious control, the more freedom and the more joyful your life can be.

Worry is twisted up in your fears, so when you choose not to worry, you are making a conscious step in releasing your fears.

I encourage you to choose to live your life trusting in life to only deliver to you what you can handle in the now and let yourself enjoy and appreciate what is happening today, free from your worries and fears.

Dispelling Worry Meditation

To assist you in finding the truth about worrying, I offer you a little meditation that is straightforward and easy to incorporate into your life.

The first step is to use the power of your mind to choose to stop worrying consciously.

Affirm:
Whatever comes into my life I will handle when it is in my life.

Now take a deep relaxing breath.

Release any fears and consciously commit to considering a problem when it is real. Decide to cross a bridge only when it emerges in your life path.

Certainly, on life’s path, you cannot cross a bridge until you come to it. You may find that just this shift in your thoughts significantly reduces your stress.

Spend 2-3 minutes a day observing the content of your “mind chatter.”

Each time you notice that you are worrying, stop. Take three deep breaths while you bring your attention and awareness into the present moment, into the now.

Then consciously with your mind, replace the negative thought with an affirmation or reframe the just past event that seems to have stimulated your worry or fear response with a positive statement.

You could have at the ready some affirmations that engage the power of your mind in a positive direction. For your convenience, I have written some affirmations that you can incorporate into your life.

Affirm:
I will consider and evaluate each situation in my life based upon what is happening NOW.

Affirm:
Today’s challenges are sufficient for me today.

Affirm:
What is past is powerless over me.
The future awaits creation.
Only right now can I make the right choice.

Finally, live in gratitude for the blessings and abundance you have in your life, right here, right now.

I encourage and invite you to free your life from the stress and strain of worrying and stand confidently in the present moment. Trust yourself and trust life to provide bridges for you over troubled waters that you only need to cross when they are right before you.

Namaste,

Genevieve Gerard

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WHY AM I STRESSED OUT?

Quotes about Stress in the 1980’s:

Time magazine cover article called stress “The Epidemic of the Eighties” and referred to it as our leading health problem
A 1983 Prevention magazine survey found that only 55% feel they have “great stress” one day a week.
In the same survey in 1996 almost 75% said they felt under great stress on a weekly basis with one out of three indicating they feel this way more than twice a week.

According to the 1990’s NIOSH National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health report:

40% of workers reported their job was very or extremely stressful;
Three fourths of employees believe that workers have more on-the-job stress than a generation ago;
26% of workers said they were “often or very often burned out or stressed by their work”;

More recently, quotes about stress in the 2000 annual “Attitudes In The American Workplace VI” Gallup Poll sponsored by the Marlin Company found that:

80% of workers feel stress on the job, nearly half say they need help in learning how to manage stress and 42% say their coworkers need such help;

A subsequent 2000 Integra Survey similarly reported that:

62% routinely find that they end the day with work-related neck pain, 44% reported stressed-out eyes, 38% complained of hurting hands and 34% reported difficulty in sleeping because they were too stressed-out;

These findings are supported by other studies that put their significance in perspective.

75-90% of visits to Primary Care doctors are due to stress
1/3 of women and 1/4 of men take no vacation each year

Effects of stress …
… On your body	… On your mood	… On your behavior
Headache Muscle tension or pain Chest pain Fatigue Change in sex drive Stomach upset Sleep problems	Anxiety Restlessness Lack of motivation or focus Irritability or anger Sadness or depression	Overeating or undereating Angry outbursts Drug or alcohol abuse Tobacco use Social withdrawal

Source: American Psychological Association’s “Stress in America” report, 2010

Long-term stress can increase the risk of diseases like depression, heart disease and a variety of other problems. A stress-related illness called post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can develop after a peak emotional traumatic experience like war, physical or sexual assault, or a natural disaster.

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Whether your stress is spiraling out of control or you’ve already got it tamed, you can benefit from learning relaxation techniques. Learning relaxation techniques is easy. Relaxation techniques also are often free or low cost, pose little risk and can be done just about anywhere.

Practicing relaxation techniques can reduce stress symptoms by:

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The Physiology of Stress

Genevieve Gerard

The Physiology of Stress

By Genevieve Gerard

Stress is a physiological response to the events of our lives. How we respond to that stress and what happens to our bodies when we feel threatened dates back to times when life was more primitive and the responses to life events was simpler. When we feel threatened or endangered our body responds by producing adrenalin. Blood pumps away from the extremities into the muscles. This is why when you are feeling frightened or stressed your hands and feet are often cold. The heart rate accelerates, and the blood pressure increases. Muscles bunch preparing the body protect itself from the perceived danger by either fight or flight. This is called the fight flight response.

Prior to the industrial revolution fighting or fleeing was an appropriate response to most risky life situations. Threats were clear and involved survival. The natural selection process of survival of the fittest worked well. If you were the strongest or the fastest you survived. This was accomplished by either overcoming your adversary physically or by fleeing to a safe place away from your adversary. It has only been since the industrial revolution and the development of modern society that this fight flight response became a part of the problem, rather than the solution.

Today, when a boss or a co-worker threatens you, it may be very subtle, but your body responds to the time honored response of generating the fight flight response. However, there you sit with your body primed for a physical fight or a survival flight and that is not appropriate to the situation. And you cope with the perceived threat by swallowing your anger and perhaps creating a pithy remark and go on with your day. But, your body still has that energy stored up for the fight or flight from the situation. That physiological response creates health problems if not released. Chronic high blood pressure, tension headaches, muscle cramping and pains are just a few of the body’s responses to unreleased stress.

Because the body creates the fight flight response as a part of the autonomic nervous system, you must use signals that the body recognizes to turn the fight flight response off. Walking away from a confrontation calmly but then reviewing the issue in your mind throughout the day, then telling your friend or spouse about the threat, only kepts the body in a constant state of readiness to fight or for flight.

In order to relax this response you need to use signals that are recognized by the autonomic nervous system by the body. One of the reasons that running or aerobic exercise work well as a stress relief is that exercise is interpreted by the body as fulfilling what it prepared to do. Another way of signaling the body’s autonomic nervous system is to consciously to control your breath. By doing a deep breathing exercise you signal your body that the threat is over and it is time to stand down. This is one of the reasons that regular use of relaxation exercises or meditation work to improve ones health and well being.

A simple exercise that you can use is to breathe deeply into the diaphragm and count your breath slowly by a count of ten. Begin by exhaling sharply and completely, then breath in slowly filling the lungs from the diaphragm up into the chest fully as your slowly count to 10; then release the breath slowly over a count of 10. Repeat this slow full count breathing for about 10 minutes. You will notice that this very simple exercise relaxes you and releases the body from the edge of the fight flight response.

About the author: Genevieve Gerard teaches Transformational Consciousness – from first awakening to enlightened awareness. She helps you experience the joy that results from the spontaneous “touch of the soul.” Browse her body of work at www.GenevieveGerard.com.

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